STEPPING OUT OF JUDGEMENTAL LANGUAGE

As I learn to step out of good/bad concepts,

I watch for words, or other ways of speech, that maintain moralistic judgements.

This process shifts language into self-responsible, information rich and accountable

A clearly judgemental sentence

“He’s a jerk”

I can change this statement to one that states this judgment as my opinion

“I think he acts like a jerk.”

My use of the word “jerk” keeps this a judgemental statement.

This shows how I can make a statement judgmental without “to be”.

I step away from judgement entirely and clearly show my view of the situation when I say,

“I don’t like how he acted.”

 

I still don’t give any information about what action(s) brought up my upset.

I can get more information-rich and stay away from judgment when I say,

“I feel upset that John hit Jill.”

I clearly state an observation of what happened which clarifies the reason for my reaction.

 

If I want to make clear the reason I object to this action. I could tell John,

“ I value kindness and respect and I consider you hitting Jill hurtful.”

 

If I want to make clear my position on a possible future similar action,

I can add, “If I notice this about to happen again, I intend to intervene.”