As I learn to step out of good/bad concepts, I watch for words, or other ways of speech, that maintain moralistic judgements. This process shifts language into self-responsible, information rich and accountable ways to speak:

A clearly judgemental sentence “He’s a jerk”

I change this statement to now claims this judgment as my opinion

“I think he acts like a jerk.”

My use of the word “jerk” still makes this statement judgemental.

So I can still make a judgmental statement without “to be”.

I step away from judgement when I say “I don’t like how he acted.”

I also accept my view of the situation as clearly my opinion.

I still don’t give any information about what action brought up my upset.

I can get more information-rich and still stay away from judgment when I say, “I feel upset that John hit Jill.” I clearly state an observation of what happened that clarifies the reason for my reaction.

If I want to make clear the reason I object to this action. I could tell John, “ I value kindness and respect and I consider you hitting Jill unacceptable.

If I want to make clear my position on a possible future similar action I can add, “If I notice this about to happen again, I intend to intervene.”