Worry And Blame	Concern and Win/Win
I worry that something bad might happen. My worry keeps me focused on what I fear and don’t want to happen.	I notice a situation asking for attention. Exploring solutions keeps me focused on what I want to happen.
I hate worrying. I don’t know what to do. I panic and withdraw.	I get curious and explore how I might address my concerns.
I detach and disassociate. I feel anxious and fear getting blamed.	I ask for help to figure this out. I feel pleased and relieved, grateful for any support given.
I hide from other people’s anger. I blame someone else for “the problem”.	Together we explore creative ways to address a difficult situation.
We argue and blame each other. Nothing gets done.	We find a solution that we all feel comfortable with.